About Neil

I have worked with individuals and families in hospitals, hospice, schools, and private practice. Multiple lenses frame my practice, including the work of theologian Abraham Joshua Heschel, Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön, psychologists Francis Weller and Murray Bowen, physician/writer Rachael Naomi Remen and the practice of mindfulness through poetry.

I see deep listening and reverent attentiveness as a spiritual practice. I meet individuals where they are and focus on helping them increase their ability to cope with what are often extraordinary circumstances. The focus may be to increase ones’ ability to manage change, vulnerability, anxiety, fear, and the overwhelming heartache that emerges. It may include assisting individuals to connect or reconnect to practices, people, and principles that matter most to them. I may use poetry to provide additional comfort, deepen the space between us, and encourage reflection and opening.

I help individuals reflect on, metabolize, and shape their loss in a safe, sacred, meditative space.

“Neil is wonderfully sensitive, attuned and insightful. His gentle nature is perfectly suited for his work with others. He gently, yet directly, addresses the issues that need more helpful discovery. His quiet nature and patience allow his clients to probe and discover what it is true in the moment and he reflects back and expands on what is expressed when it is helpful. He understands the pain and work of grief, and respects where people are in their process.

Neil brings in levity appropriately when useful; a very good characteristic in my opinion. Working with Neil has helped me tremendously! My grief is not gone; it has transmuted to something I can live with and gain insight from and that is truly a gift. I would recommend Neil to anyone wholeheartedly.” —RS

“The greatest gift I received in my time with Neil was being a recipient of his compassionate listening. I could feel him listening deeply, lovingly, and intently. Most of all, I could sense that he wasn’t just listening until he could interject with a response. The gift that I so sorely needed—but didn’t know it—was the space to be really heard. This allowed me to hear myself and to find the reserves within, which is where the answers I sought from Neil were the whole time. I’m deeply grateful for our work.”  —SM

Read a two-page easy-to-print pdf that serves as an overview of grief and loss support, and organizes the website information in one place here.

Frequently Asked Questions are here.

Review Neil’s professional background here.

Read Neil’s article, “A Chaplain’s Notebook: Poetry as Spiritual Nourishment” published by the Journal of Pastoral Care & Counseling (2020) here.

Learn more about grief and loss support by contacting me for a free 30-minute consultation. It does not matter whether you are in the local area (Philadelphia, PA) as all support sessions are online or by phone.

Listen to the podcast, Finding Hope. Neil was a featured guest of Mandy Bird.

About poetry: some may ask, do I have to like poetry to able to benefit from working with you? While I’m passionate about poetry, the answer is emphatically no. Poetry is used judiciously and only when an individual finds comfort and meaning in it

“In this culture the soul and the heart too often go homeless. Listening creates a holy silence. When you listen generously to people, they can hear the truth in themselves, often for the first time. And in the silence of listening, you can know yourself in everyone. Eventually you may be able to hear, in everyone and beyond everyone, the unseen singing softly to itself and to you.”
― Rachel Naomi Remen

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